Angry Blog Reader Blasts Over Due And Still Forming Ladies (Photo)

From Laila's Blog:
Do ladies thats advanced in age still play ‘hard to get’? Of course,I am not saying my woman should come cheap but life is full of ironies, Years ago, I dated a 27 year old ,who was desperate to get married before 30. She was a graduate and had a job, if not for genotype incompatibility- I would have married her then. Laila,I don’t understand why ladies in their late 30s would still be putting up airs or not encouraging suitors. I mean, these ladies should even be more desperate for marriage due to their natural biological disadvantage. The biological advantage is on the side of men, we can father kids at any age. Even 70 year old can still impregnate women. But the older women get, the harder it is to conceive. So, I don’t expect ladies knocking hard on age 40 to be laid back or play ‘hard to get’ -with a serious minded suitor. It’s a luxury better left for ladies in their 20s. Laila, when ‘late -30s’ ladies request for linking, subtly advise them not to play ‘hard to get’ or put up airs.’’

I have lost it with a few sisters too-due to this attitude of a thing. But fact remains that nobody should be compelled to settle for less than she feels she deserves-whatever her age is. What’s the point of getting involved with a setting you will merely manage-instead of enjoying? One can as well stay single and make up her mind to enjoy it. More so, not everyone is cut out for this marriageof a thing. Some going into it are simply buckling under some pressure from the society-nothing more. I also feel God has the final say in all these. We have seen older women who defy biology to have kids. Just as we have had younger women who can’t have kids…it’s really neither here nor there but it’s still best to make hay while the sun shines…as you leave the rest to God.

However, I have a problem with those who really really want something but put up a nauseating attitude. To start with, most of our ladies don’t know how to encourage who is interested in them…even when they are dying of loneliness. I quarrel with ladies a lot when they complain a man isn’t calling as he used to. My response is usually- why should he keep calling you? you no sabi call person? Someone who knows what she wants knows how to make things happen her way with a little nudge here and some encouragement there. If you are introduced to someone you like and he makes the first few contacts…start reciprocating. Don’t always wait for him to call or chat you up. Sometimes you call to know how his day was, ask if he has eaten and jokingly ask what he had for lunch/dinner. From there-you ask what his favourite meal is etc. These small talks will naturally lead you guys to important details about each other-as you talk. It’s really simple if you make the effort. It does not mean you are cheapening yourself at all. No matter how much interested a man is in you…if you don’t encourage him (with your attitude- especially) he will face elsewhere!

By Kayode IBIDAPO