For Women: 5 ways to get what you want in bed

Just because you are not the kind to claim dominance in the bedroom does not mean you should be subjected to a less-than-stellar bedroom performance.

Not all women are assertive when it comes to going for what they want in the bedroom, but all women in relationships should be enjoying a satisfying sex life.

Just because you are not the kind to claim dominance in the bedroom does not mean you should be subjected to a less-than-stellar bedroom performance.

Naijaqueen.com shares 5 ways to get what you want.

Bring it up:

This can be done outside the bedroom if you get uncomfortable with making demands when your clothes are off. You can say something like, "I think most girls love being fingered." He might be curious enough to ask if that means you like it too, just simply shrug and say "yeah, sometimes," and the seed has been sown.

Lead the way:

Another subtle way of letting him know what you need is to guide him. You want his hands to get busy down there, slowly but firmly hold his hand and guide him where he needs to go. He will appreciate knowing he is pleasing you by doing what you actually want.

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Drop hints:

You can try watching pornography together. Show him things that you think is hot. Say, "wow, that girl must be enjoying being eaten out like that." You can even add a deep, sweet sigh to drive home your point that you will kill to be that porn actress at that time. Yup, he will get the hint.

Encourage him:

Even if you do not bring it up, a man could stumble upon something that feels so damn good in bed. Do not just moan and let it pass. Make a move to show that he has hit the jackpot. A simple "Yes, yes, keep going," is enough. To drive home your point, after the sex session is over, you can bring up that one thing that killed you and say, "damn, you really hit the right spot when you..." He will know what to do next time.

Sext:

Sexting is not just for long distance couples. It affords you the opportunity to type what you cannot say. Most bedroom-shy women feel better typing what they like when their partner is not physically present. Sexting is a way to let go. Try sending your man a hot message on his way home from and tell him what you want him to do when he gets back.